1. Respondent ID
\n1. 1. Age: 10
\n1. 2. Sex: M.
\n1. 3. Parent(s) away: Father.
\n1. 4. Parent(s) moved abroad: 11-12 years ago
\n1. 5. Country: Spain.
\n1. 6. Respondent lives with: Mother.<\/p>\n
2. Details of Respondent’s life before:
\nI: How long was he out of the country?
\nR: About three or four months. Then he used to come for a month… then he left again…
\nI: Your father lives with you now.
\nR: Yes.
\nI: He has returned this year.
\nR: Yes.
\nI: What month was it when he came back, if you remember…?
\nR: …
\nI: You were born when he was still abroad.
\nR: Right.
\nI: What did you like to do with him when he came home?
\nR: Stay with him, go out with him.
\nI: Where were you going, to the Cr\u00e2ng Park?
\nR: Yes.
\nI: Which is your favorite park? Is it Cr\u00e2ng?
\nR: Yes.
\nI: What about Marghiloman Park, don’t you like it?
\nR: I go there with my colleagues.
\nI: I see. So, you gave different parks to go to; with your father to one park, with your colleagues to another park. Do you have many friends?
\nR: Yes, I do.
\nI: Are they your age, older or younger?
\nR: My age. We are classmates.
\nI: What do you all do in the park?
\nR: We play football… that’s all.
\nI: Great.
\nR: We run.
\nI: Do you play football with your father?
\nR: (He shakes his head.)
\nI: You don’t? Doesn’t he like to play? What about other games in the open?
\nR: I don’t play too much with Dad.
\nI: You don\u2019t?
\nR: No.
\nI: You just walk.
\nR: Yes.
\nI: Would you like to play with him?
\nR: Yes.
\nI: Did you ask him to?
\nR: (He laughs. He whispers.) Yes.
\nI: Did he say “I’m too serious for that”? Or why doesn’t he play?
\nR: Because he is tired.
\nI: That’s how my parents were, too, believe me, always tired. Who helped you with your homework?
\nR: My mother.
\nI: In what subjects? The ones which seemed more difficult to you?
\nR: Science, civic education.
\nI: Did your mother help you in math?
\nR: Yes, she did.
\nI: Do you have any favorite subject?
\nR: Yes.
\nI: Which is that?
\nR: Math.
\nI: Who accompanied you to school? Is your school near your house?
\nR: It’s near my house, I go alone.
\nI: How old were you when you started going to school alone?
\nR: Eight.
\nI: Who used to talk to your teacher?
\nR: Mom.
\nI: Only your mother? Your father…
\nR: Sometimes he did. He didn’t want to come with me.
\nI: Why didn’t he want to?
\nR: (He laughs.)<\/p>\n
3. Details of Respondent’s life before:
\nI: Can you tell me anything about your father’s leaving? Just one moment… Can you tell about how you used to say good bye? What happened that day?
\nR: I don’t actually remember.
\nI: Something more recent… which usually happened on the day before his departure?
\nR: I was tagging along with him.
\nI: Did you use to stay inside or to go out?
\nR: Both inside and outside.
\nI: Did you also use to do any other thing together?
\nR: … I used to throw my arms around him. Mom had to leave, too. But not abroad, she went to Bucharest. She worked in a hospital in Bucharest. And I remained home with Grandma. And I also missed her a lot but I knew she was busy.
\nI: By the way, did you understand why your father had to leave the country?
\nR: Yes, I did. He went to work.
\nI: What did you feel about that? Did it seem a good reason for him to leave?
\nR: Both good and bad.
\nI: Why? Why good and why bad?
\nR: It was good because he used to bring us presents. It was bad because he had to leave again. He stayed far away too long.
\nI: Right. Your mother took care of you, didn’t she?
\nR: Yes.
\nI: Anybody else?
\nR: No.
\nI: How did you get along with her while your father was away?
\nR: Fine.
\nI: Do you also have other relatives in town or in the country?
\nR: My cousin also looked after me.
\nI: And how did you get along with your cousin?
\nR: Quite well. We used to play.
\nI: She is playful. How old is she?
\nR: Fifty five.
\nI: What did you play?
\nR: I was younger at that time. We played with small cars. I was younger when Mom was at… at Dr\u0103gaica fair.
\nI: What toy cars did you play with?
\nR: I don\u2019t know, there were some small cars, like this… it wasn’t me who bought them.
\nI: Did your father give them to you?
\nR: Yes.
\nI: What else did he send you?
\nR: He sent me a tractor when I was younger. I rode it a lot.
\nI: A tractor you could ride?
\nR: Yes, that kind of tractor with pedals.
\nI: Really?
\nR: Yes, and I’ve got an ATV, too.
\nI: You don’t say! Do you know how much I wished one when I was a kid? Where did you ride your ATV and tractor?
\nR: I rode the tractor behind the building and the ATV in Tineretului Park.
\nI: I envy you! Any other things, besides these big items, did he also use to send you?
\nR: Toy cars, rollers, a penny board.
\nI: What’s that?
\nR: Kind of skateboard.
\nI: I see. What about sweets?
\nR: Yes, he also sent me sweets.
\nI: What kind of sweets?
\nR: …
\nI: Who knows? Do you like lollipops, chocolate?
\nR: Chocolate.
\nI: Milk chocolate? What else?
\nR: I don\u2019t know, but I remember he used to bring some white chocolate.
\nI: I like milk chocolate best. It’s my favorite. But these are my own tastes. While you father was away, did you ever need a doctor or did you go in hospital?
\nR: No, I didn’t.
\nI: Great! Do you have any friends whose parents have also moved abroad to work?
\nR: Yes, I do.
\nI: To what countries?
\nR: Germany.
\nI: Do you feel closer to them? Is it a special relationship with these friends whose parents are out of the country? Looking at your face, I guess you don’t. You don’t feel closer to them. You don’t have certain common subjects to talk about.
\nR: No.
\nI: Your friends know your father is abroad, don’t they?
\nR: Yes, they do.
\nI: And what do they think about that?
\nR: (he makes a long pause.) They have never told me what they think.
\nI: Haven’t they?
\nR: No, they only asked me.
\nI: They didn’t say “wow, you’re so lucky you’ve got an ATV”?
\nR: (he laughs.)
\nI: What does your mother do here? What did she use to do while your father was away?
\nR: What did she do? She worked at Dr\u0103gaic\u0103, she was… used to give…
\nI: Do you know what your father did in Spain, what job she had?
\nR: No, I don’t.
\nI: Didn’t you ask him?
\nR: He told me he was working in an office.
\nI: Weren’t you curious to know more about that?
\nR: …
\nI: Ok… he used to send presents….
\nR: …he did \u2026sometimes, but he usually brought them to us.
\nI: Was there anything special you wanted him to buy you with the money earned working abroad?
\nR: No.
\nI: Have you ever asked him to buy you something?
\nR: What? Well, eh… a drone.
\nI: A drone? Did he buy it to you! I would also like to buy a drone. I want one with a longer lifecycle. What was the lifecycle of your drone?
\nR: Between ten and fifteen minutes.
\nI: Do you film from above?
\nR: I don\u2019t know how to switch on the camera.
\nI: Do you play with at as if it were a helicopter like that…
\nR: Yes, I do.
\nI: Have you had any trouble with your neighbors because of it?
\nR: No, I haven’t. Yet
\nI: Yet. I’ve heard about a drone which had run into the prop of a plane, which is not good. The plane didn’t crash, but…<\/p>\n
4. Internet-based communications.
\n*Technical.
\nI: Do you have internet access at home?
\nR: I do.
\nI: What do you use for that, a computer, a tablet, a laptop…?
\nR: A laptop.
\nI: Have you got your own laptop?
\nR: Yes.
\nI: Since when?
\nR: Last year.
\nI: How did you access the internet before?
\nR: At that time I used to go out with my friends.
\nI: Oh, you didn’t feel the need to sit at a computer. Ok. Who bought you the laptop?
\nR: Mom did.
\nI: Did you use to talk to your father on the laptop?
\nR: No, we talked over the phone.
\nI: Did you use to write letters?
\nR: I didn’t.
\nI: Did he use to write you and your mother?
\nR: No, he didn’t.
\nI: Do you talk to your friends and colleagues on the internet?
\nR: Sure.
\nI: What programs do you use?
\nR: Skype.
\nI: Skype! What about video call?
\nR: Yes, video, too.
\nI: Do you prefer the video?
\nR: Not me, they prefer it.
\nI: Do you shut off the camera?
\nR: Yes.
\nI: Why?
\nR: …
\nI: I don’t like to be seen, either. I understand why you shut off the camera: “look, I don’t want you to see me. I haven’t combed my hair”. Do you know what I mean?
\nR: I do.
\nI: Is that why you don’t turn it on?
\nR: (he laughs lightly)
\nI: Do you also use only the voice call through Skype? It has this option, too.
\nR: No, we don’t.
\nI: What about the chat? Do you write?
\nR: Yes, we do
\nI: You haven’t got Facebook.
\nR: I’ve got it.
\nI: Have you? You know that’s illegal. What age did you say you were?
\nR: Over twenty. Yes, twenty.
\nI: What do you like to do on Facebook?
\nR: I don’t go on it too often.
\nI: What about Messenger?
\nR: ….
\nI: Did you want to talk to your father on Skype?
\nR: Yes, I did.
\nI: What did you tell him? “Dad, I want to talk on Skype!”
\nR: Yes, but he forgot his password.
\nI: Oh, that’s why you didn’t go on it… What about other services, like Google Hangouts… do you have it on your phone?
\nR: What?
\nI: Google Hangouts, I don\u2019t know if you use that.
\nR: No, I don’t.
\nI: Do your parents have a Facebook account?
\nR: Only Mom has.
\nI: Well… does she follow you on Facebook? Oh, you don’t actually post pn it.
\nR: No, I only have a photo.
\nI: How do you prefer to communicate with your father?
\nR: Over the phone.
\nI: Was it you that usually called, I mean you and your mother, or he called you?
\nR: Either me or him…
\nI: Who do you think called more often?
\nR: He did.<\/p>\n
*Content.
\nI: How often did you talk every day?
\nR: Two or three times a day.
\nI: You have got your phone for a long time, haven’t you?
\nR: For two years and a half.
\nI: What did you usually talk about?
\nR: I always asked him when he would come home. And he always said “I got a little bit left”, but he had much left. He had one or two months left. After a week I asked him again when he would come.
\nI: I believe you. I also have flashbacks from my childhood. Would you have liked to talk more often r more seldom or you think you talked often enough?
\nR: It was often enough.
\nI: Did he use to ask you what you would have liked him to bring you?
\nR: Yes, he did.
\nI: As you told me, you used to ask him to bring you certain things. Ok, that was a sufficient communication. Was there anybody around while you talked to him?
\nR: No.
\nI: How did you talk to him when you were younger? Also individually or your mother was around?
\nR: Mom was around.
\nI: Were there any relatives, or friends who used to come to your place?
\nR: No.
\nI: Were there any things you felt you could only discuss with your father, but not with your mother or sister?
\nR: I don\u2019t know.
\nI: have you ever felt you cannot tell him something on the phone and have to tell him face-to-face?
\nR: o, I haven’t.
\nI: Did he use to ask you what you had done at school?
\nR: No, he didn’t.
\nI: Were you pressed by anybody to get good marks? But you are not actually given marks, are you? You are graded…
\nR: Yes.
\nI: Do your grades matter for your parents?
\nR: Yes, they do.
\nI: Really? Have they ever scolded you because you weren’t graded highly?
\nR: Highly?
\nI: Yes, highly.
\nR: No, they haven’t.
\nI: Do you like school?
\nR: Yes, I do.
\nI: Has your father ever scolded you when you talked over the phone?
\nR: No, he hasn’t.
\nI: Has he scolded you face-to-face?
\nR: (He nods.)
\nI: Really? Why? Can you tell me?
\nR: When I was younger…
\nI: What had you done?
\nR: I hid from him. (We both laugh.)
\nI: Why did you hide from him?
\nR: Because… it was a sudden…
\nI: How old were you?
\nR: Three or four.
\nI: Where had you hidden?
\nR: (He laughs.) In a wardrobe.
\nI: Had you stayed there long?
\nR: I don\u2019t know.
\nI: It means you had scared him a bit, did he scold you? “Where’s the boy?” Have you ever lost them while you were walking on the street?
\nR: Yes, I have.
\nI: Really?
\nR: I was walking with Mom and Dad and I turned left to another.. street. And I thought they were walking behind me. We only found each other after a while.<\/p>\n
5. Relationship with the absent parent (important stages\/significant moments):
\nI: Have you ever gone to your father’s place abroad?
\nR: Where?
\nI: Where he was working.
\nR: No, I haven’t.
\nI: Weren’t you curious to see the place?
\nR: Oh, yes, I was.
\nI: Did you tell him you wanted to go there?
\nR: I did.
\nI: And what did he say?
\nR: He said it was impossible.
\nI: Why? Did he explain why?
\nR: No, he didn’t.
\nI: No?
\nR. No. People get it from me. If Mom says no, I ask: “But why?”
\nI: You don’t need to take my point… Did you know where he lived there abroad?
\nR: No, I didn’t.
\nI: Did you ask him to tell about the place he lived in?
\nR: He only told me he lived with his colleagues.
\nI: Did he tell you what the sight was from the window, if there was a park nearby?
\nR: No.
\nI: Did he tell you how things were going there?
\nR: No.
\nI: Could you point those places on the map?
\nR: No.
\nI: You will learn at Geography… Did your mother tell you about the work your father was doing?
\nR: She didn’t really say.
\nI: Did you ask her?
\nR: (He laughs and shakes his head.)
\nI: You didn’t? Ok. Where there any things you were trying to hide from your father?
\nR: No.
\nI: Did you call him when you were sad?
\nR: I did.
\nI: Really? Why did you usually call him, for what purpose? Did you have anything special to tell him?
\nR: Not really.
\nI: If a colleague gave you any trouble, did you feel the need to tell your father?
\nR: No, I didn’t.
\nI: Do you use WhatsApp?
\nR: No.
\nI: What about Instagram?
\nR: No.
\nI: Do your colleagues use them?
\nR: They do.
\nI: Really? Why don’t you install them?
\nR: Because I don’t stay too much on Messenger or WhatsApp…
\nI: Is it because you don’t want or you are not allowed to?
\nR: No, I don’t want. I’d rather go out; from three to eight-eight thirsty.
\nI: Do you only stay in the park?
\nR: Oh, no… we also go for walks…
\nI: Do you like riding a bike?
\nR: Yes, I do.
\nI: Where?
\nR: In the country.
\nI: Don’t you ride it in the town?
\nR: No, I don’t.
\nI: You are afraid of cars, aren’t you?
\nR: I don’t have my bike here, it’s at the place we have in the country
\nI: Thank you very much.<\/p>\n
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