1. Respondent ID
\n1. 1. Age: 16.
\n1. 2. Sex: F.
\n1. 3. Parent(s) away: Both
\nI: Are they both in the same place?
\nR: They are separated.
\n1. 4. Country: both parents moved to Germany (at the time of the interview they are in Germany, but they initially moved to Spain. – “We had all lived in Spain before.” The interview focused on the period in which the parents lived in Spain.)
\n1. 5. Parent(s) moved abroad: father has been abroad for sixteen years; the rest of the family followed him eleven years ago (left for Spain!)
\n1. 6. Respondent lives with: Her sister who is twenty-one.<\/p>\n
2. Details of Respondent’s life before:
\nI: When exactly did they or you leave for Spain?
\nR: Dad left first to work. We lived in Timi\u0219oara. I was born there, Dad is from Timi\u0219oara, Mom has some relatives in Buz\u0103u and the whole family left: me, Mom and my sister. Dad had left when I was just a baby. I was only three months old. We also followed him when I was five years old.
\nI: Who do you mainly keep in touch with?
\nR: With Mom.
\nI: Are there any explanations for that?
\nR: My parents are separated. They separated when we came back to Romania. Dad had been working in Spain since we lived there. Spain got into a crisis and Dad went to Germany to work there. And we settled in Romania again. They separated.
\nI: Can you tell e why?
\nR: Dad had found another woman.
\nI: When did you return to Romania?
\nR: In 2013, at the end of 2013.
\nI: What did you like to do together with your parents?
\nR: I liked to go out with them. There was a funfair where we used to go every weekend, I think, and stay all together.
\nI: Can you tell me where exactly in Spain did you live?
\nR: In Murcia.
\nI: You must know that it is Murcia we are carrying out our project, namely with the Catholic University of Murcia. You started school there, didn’t you?
\nR: Yes, I went to school there until the ninth grade according to the Romanian educational system, I don\u2019t know…
\nI: When you came here did you go to high school or…
\nR: No, I was actually supposed to be in the eighth grade and I went to the seventh. I had to pass the exam and I didn’t know Romanian.
\nI: Did you learn Romanian in Romania?
\nR: Yes. I knew a little, but I couldn’t write correctly and…
\nI: Did you need help with your homework during your “Spanish”\u201d period?
\nR: In Spain? No, I didn’t.
\nI: Did you live far from the nursery, the school?
\nR: Not really. They were quite close.
\nI: Did you use to go to school alone?
\nR: Mom used to drive me to school.
\nI: Who kept in touch with your teacher?
\nR: Both Mom and Dad.<\/p>\n
3. Details of Respondent’s life after:
\nI: Now they are both abroad.
\nR: Right.
\nI: When did your mother leave?
\nR: When I was in the ninth grade.
\nI: Please, make an effort of memory and describe your first day after your mother had left.
\nR: It was quite a sad day. I stayed with Grandma, my Mom’s mother, nothing special.
\nI: Why did she have to leave?
\nR: For us to live a better life.
\nI: You understood that, didn’t you? What do you feel about this option of your mother?
\nR: I know she is there for us.
\nI: For you and your sister.
\nR: Right.
\nI: How do you get along with your sister?
\nR: Very well. We are united.
\nI: Have you always got along well?
\nR: Yes, we have.
\nI: Do you have any relatives in Buz\u0103u?
\nR: Yes, an aunt and my Grandma.
\nI: Do you get along well with them?
\nR: Yes, but we don’t talk very often.
\nI: Is it because of the difference in age and culture?
\nR: We don’t talk very often.
\nI: Have you faced any situation of crisis since your mother left? Like going to hospital, to a doctor?
\nR: No, I haven’t.
\nI: Do you have any friends or colleagues whose relatives live abroad?
\nR: Yes, my desk mate. Her father has left for Spain, I guess. I don\u2019t know if it’s Spain or France.
\nI: Having some common points in your biographies, do you get along better with your desk mate than with other colleagues or friends?
\nR: No.
\nI: The other colleagues know your mother is abroad, don’t they?
\nR: Yes, they do.
\nI: Do they envy or pity you?
\nR: No, they don’t.
\nI: They neither envy nor pity you?
\nR: No.
\nI: While your mother was in Romania, what was she working?
\nR: Mom didn’t have a job here.
\nI: What about Spain?
\nR: She didn’t work there, either. Dad had a very good job and told her she’d better stay home and take care of us.
\nI: What did your father work in Spain?
\nR: He was a builder. He was building villas and houses and…
\nI: What is your mother working now?
\nR: She is going to be hired at a nursing home. She has looked after some old people.
\nI: Does she help you with money?
\nR: Mom? Sure, she gives me money.
\nI: Apart from the money needed daily, does she give you any in particular?
\nR: Yes. But we have no shortage.
\nI: Any presents?
\nR: Yes, presents, too.
\nI: Is there any which stick in your mind?
\nR: Not necessarily.
\nI: What about your clothes? Do you have more? Are they more beautiful?
\nR: Yes, they are.
\nI: Is it anything you want and hope to get due to your mother’s efforts?
\nR: No.
\nI: A telephone, a car, a bicycle, a camera?
\nI: No, no, no.<\/p>\n
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4. Internet-based communications.
\n*Technical.
\nI: Do you have internet access at home?
\nR: Yes, I do.
\nI: What kind of connection is it, through computer or phone?
\nR: WI-FI, both through computer and phone.
\nI: Who pays for the subscription?
\nR: Mom does. (She laughs slightly.)
\nI: How long have you had the internet?
\nR: Since we moved in 2013.
\nI: Who bought the computer and the phone?
\nR: Mom bought the computer and Dad bought the phone.
\nI: Did they buy them on a particular occasion or just because they were necessary?
\nR: Dad bought it because I had told him I wanted a phone. Mom bought the computer because it was a necessary item.
\nI: Have you ever written any letters by hand?
\nR: I have, at school, as homework for the French and also for the English class.
\nI: Did you post those letters?
\nR: No.
\nI: Besides Romanian and Spanish you also know French and English.
\nR: Yes, well, I attend a high school with a bilingual profile (Romanian-French), namely bilingual Biology profile, and I also study English at school.
\nI: Can you tell me what your projects are, what college you want to attend, what you would like to be?
\nR: I would like to get a degree in foreign languages and become a legal translator.
\nI: It means you also master specific legal terms.
\nR: Yes.
\nI: You’ve earned my respect! Do you use the internet to communicate with your friends and colleagues?
\nR: Yes, I do. Facebook or WhatsApp.
\nI: It means you have a Facebook account.
\nR: Sure.
\nI: Does your mother have one?
\nR: Yes, she does.
\nI: How do you prefer to communicate with her, on the phone or the computer?
\nR: Both. Through messages on Facebook or WhatsApp, but also on the phone, I mean we talk over the phone.
\nI: Do you only use audio calls or…?
\nR: Audio-video.
\nI: Is it she who usually calls you or\u2026?
\nR: We both call.
\nI: You say you have had a computer since you came here.
\nR: I also had one there.
\nI: Also there in Spain. It means you’ve been using the computer for a long time.
\nR: Right.
\nI: Since when?
\nR: Since I was ten or eleven years old.
\nI: How did you learn to use it?
\nR: Playing.
\nI: What else do you do on the computer, apart from communicating with your mother?
\nR: I also search for information, for my homework.
\nI: What applications, websites and programs do you use to communicate with your mother?
\nR: Facebook, that is Messenger, and WhatsApp.
\nI: Have there been cases where you would have liked to talk to your mother but you couldn’t?
\nR: No.
\nI: Don’t you use e-mails?
\nR: No, I don’t.<\/p>\n
* Content.
\nI: How often do you talk?
\nR: Very often. (She laughs slightly.)
\nI: At certain intervals?
\nR: No, we talk several times a day.
\nI: Do you remember your first audio or video communication with your mother?
\nR: No.
\nI: Would you like to talk to her more often?
\nR: I don’t think more often is possible. (She laughs.)
\nI: What do you usually talk about?
\nR: About what we’ve done that day… and she tells me…
\nI: For instance, what did you last talk about?
\nR: While we talked over the phone, while Mom was there?
\nI: Yes.
\nR: She told me she was ready to go, that she had packed and hardly waited to arrive home.
\nI: When she is away does she ask you what you would like her to send or bring you?
\nR: Yes, she does. I usually ask for perfumes, foundation cream…
\nI: Do you ever ask her to bring you a particular item? Does she know what to buy for you?
\nR: Yes, she does.
\nI: You know each other very well.
\nR: Right.
\nI: When you talk to your mother is it just between you and her or there is someone else around, for instance your sister or other relatives?
\nR: My sister may be around. I mean we have no secrets from her.
\nI: Does she also involve in your conversation?
\nR: Sometimes.
\nI: Do you feel there are things you can only discuss with your mother?
\nR: No, I don’t.
\nI: Do also discuss them with your sister?
\nR: Yes, I do.
\nI: Have you ever felt that certain things can only be said face-to-face, not through internet?
\nR: No, I haven’t.
\nI: Are you satisfied with such communication?
\nR: Yes, I am.
\nI: Do you have any common activities while she is away? Somebody of your age told me they were eating at the same time, placed the phone “face-to-face” and had the meal together.
\nR: There have been times when we had meals at the same time, but we didn’t talk, we established to talk after we have finished.
\nI: Do you show her what you have done at school? If she is in a store, does she ever call you to ask “let e show you this perfume”?
\nR: Yes, she has called me from a store.
\nI: Does she keep in touch with your teachers here?
\nR: With my form mistress. Now she has to go to a parent-teacher conference.
\nI: When will she leave again?
\nR: Mom? Next week.<\/p>\n
5. Relationship with mother (important stages\/significant moments)
\nI: How often does she come to Romania?
\nR: She used to come every two months, but now she will leave for a longer period.
\nI: tell me something you have done since she came, something you had missed while she was away.
\nR: We lived together, slept together.
\nI: Did you sleep together?
\nR: Yes, we did.
\nI: What did your sister say?
\nR: What could she say? (She laughs slightly.) I went out with Mom, we did the shopping. (She smiles.)
\nI: Tell me, what impressed you most in Spain?
\nR: The school. It was different, we didn’t have to wear uniforms; we could wear whatever we wanted.
\nI: Do you have to wear a uniform here?
\nR: Yes, they impose one. …starting from next week… The teachers were also different, there was no politeness distinction in personal pronouns or… We called them by name, it would have been offensive to them unless… and, I don\u2019t know, I loved the place we lived in, next to the sea.
\nI: Did you often go sunbathing?
\nR: Yes, I did.
\nI: Speaking about school, the things you learned there, the manner in which you learned…
\nR: were different.
\nI: For instance, what did you study there and you don’t study here?
\nR: It’s not that we don’t study here, but Geography and History went together there, as well as Physics and Chemistry.
\nI: Did you feel you learned better like that?
\nR: It’s different, anyway.
\nI: Can you describe the first day when you returned from Spain?
\nR: We returned by car, our car, and we stopped in Timi\u0219oara where we used to live at that time and Dad left away, I think he left by coach.
\nI: The same day?
\nR: Yes, he left the same day we arrived. He went to Germany. We remained with Mom and the car. We were to come to Buz\u0103u.
\nI: I see, the first day was actually a long drive from Timi\u0219oara to Buz\u0103u.
\nR: Right.
\nI: Where did you go when you arrived at Buz\u0103u?
\nR: To my aunt’s place. Later on we moved to a rented apartment.
\nI: Do you rent?
\nR: Yes.
\nI: Does it cost much?
\nR: Not very much. (She smiles.)
\nI: What about your aunt? You met, unpacked luggage, had dinner?
\nR: Right. Then we looked for schools. Mom went to the inspectorate and we applied for school, I for School no. 7, my sister for “Eminescu” High School. On the twenty-sixth or the twenty-ninth of November, I’m not sure about the date, we went to school. It was our first day at school here.
\nI: Do you know where your mother lives now, did she tell you about her home?
\nR: Abroad?
\nI: Yes.
\nR: Well, Mom used to work at people’s places. Now she is going to work in a nursery.
\nI: Doesn’t she know where she will live?
\nR: No, she knows now.
\nI: Would you like to join your mother?
\nR: And live there?
\nI: For instance.
\nR: No, I wouldn’t.
\nI: What about spending your holidays there?
\nR: On holidays, yes, I would go there.
\nI: Have you ever been to Germany?
\nR: Yes, I have.
\nI: Is she leaving for good? Does she want to return?
\nR: Yes, she wants to return.
\nI: When does she plan to return, leaving visits aside?
\nR: I suppose she will return when she retires.
\nI: Are there any advantages of your mother’s being away?
\nR: We manage very well with the money. That’s all, I guess.
\nI: Are there any things you are trying to hide from your mother, such as bad marks, quarrels with colleagues…?
\nR: No!
\nI: Which do you think would be the negative parts of your mother’s being away?
\nR: She is far from us.
\nI: You spent a few celebrations in Spain. Your birthday, Christmas… do you remember any particular celebration?
\nR: In general, I know what we used to do. For Christmas they sent up upstairs to sleep and after that they pretended that Santa had come and put presents under the tree. We believed them. (She smiles.) We used to spend the holidays together.
\nI: You have returned to Romania. How do you spend your holidays here?
\nR: Last time it was quite sad because Dad had separated from Mom just before Christmas.
\nI: Did you try trimming a tree?
\nR: Oh, yes, we trimmed a tree.
\nI: I see. You tried to get over… My mother raised me alone for quite a long time. I am pretty sensitive to such things, emotionally speaking. Do you understand your father’s attitude?
\nR: No, I don’t.
\nI: Do you know the lady?
\nR: Yes, I know her. She used to be my godfather’s girlfriend. He’d been Dad’s best friend. (She smiles.)
\nI: From Spain?
\nR: From Romania, from Timi\u0219oara.
\nI: Did their bond strengthen in Spain?
\nR: In Germany. Dad took them both to work in Germany and… after that, my godfather went to France \u2013 so I guess \u2013 and she left there alone.
\nI: I’m sorry. Thank you very much. I wish you lots of luck in your life.<\/p>\n
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